Have you ever wondered why people fall in love? Uh, I was never much for that mushy stuff that people talk about like the romantic life. It never seemed that precious to me. I always thought that people were to over dramatic when they fell for someone. How was it that someone could fall head over heels for someone without thinking logically about it? Call me cynical or what you will, but really love is just a 4-letter word. I always thought that, but perhaps being a girl myself I always did have that little wish that one day I would find my prince charming. Really, how wrong was I? I have seen so many men that just seemed like they were only in the love game for one thing. Ladies, I think you can answer this question for me. Most men out there seem to have one thing on their minds. SEX. Really is that all they ever think about. Most men want sex and most women want love. Maybe that is a stretch, because I have met several women that just want to have a sexual relationship with men and some men that want to start a family.
However, how can anyone say that having a partner is all about love or all about sex? It is not. People need to realize that with one comes another. Take this friend of mine for example. She started seeing a friend of hers, basically a friends with benefits type of relationship. Oh, no strings attached. How she was wrong? A few months into their just purely sexual relationship she falls for him. How could she not see this coming? Almost always someone in these type of relatioships falls for the other. When the other person does not reciprocate those feelings, one person is left out in the cold by themselves. Why do women keep doing this to themselves? Is it that they think that one day some perfect romantic man is going to come ride up on his white horse and sweep them off their feet. As a woman, I know this is not going to happen. No man is perfect, and certainly no woman is either. It just is not logical for people to think that they are going to find a partner that has no flaws. What kind of thinking is that. Ladies, the men in our lives will burp, fart, and probably snore that is just the way it is. You can't expect for a man to always smell perfect or not look like they just rolled out of bed. It is the same way that men should not expect a supermodel waking up beside him in the morning, because before the makeup and hairspray, not all women look so pretty. People just need to realize that love is more than that fairytale type of romance, because with love comes hardships. Love is not perfect. It has it's ups and downs. People are not always going to do what you want them to do. People are not perfect little robots that are going to do everything you wish. They have a soul and heart too. They need to know that regardless of what they look like in the morning or how angry they may get sometimes that you will still be around when those moments pass.
Love is more than just sex too. Sex is great. It is part of that relationship that shows that you trust this person more than anyone else. You trust them with your body. For some people, it is hard for them to trust someone so much to actually have a sexual relationship with them. It should be something respected. Also, when you are with someone that you truly love, sex can take you to levels that you could have never even dreamed about. Both sexes need to realize that life comes with love and it comes with sex. Eventually the two almost always co-mingle. Life can be so much better if you let the two happen together not just by themselves. Men and women need to embrace their romantic lives as well. Men are not wimps if they say that they love a female every once and a while and women can still be ladies even if they enjoy sex. These seem to be two of the most stereotypical things to do with love. Just remember that the next time you really fall in love embrace all points of that relationship, because if you don't take chances when you have the opportunity, you will be kicking yourself later for not following your heart.
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Hey sis. Nice to see you join the blogosphere. If you need any tips at all, you know where to find me. This was a really interesting first post. I definitely understand what you mean. I think that men and women generally seem to go into relationships for different reasons. There are some just looking for sex, while others are looking for love. It's best to try to find both. I do think people have a fairytale idea of romance. They've watched too many movies that give them an idea of what love is supposed to be like. That's not reality though. I think that's caused a lot of the problems we see in relationships. I won't ramble on. Good post. Have fun with blogging.
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